LProblems, with relative frequency, cause us to spend our time ‘thinking over’ them ‘over and over again’. And in that vicious circle of worries we end up exhausted, stressed and more confused.
It is normal for us to worry when something does not go as we expect; however, on more than one occasion we exaggerate and mix too many things to the point that we assume that life is escaping from our own control.
All of us, without exception, are assailed by uncertainty about what fate may bring us. We are also very afraid of those variations that we do not cause and that life brings us by itself. However, we cannot remain prisoners of this unease.
It is key that we control and manage our thoughts so as not to make the situation worse. I insist on saying that it is not about stopping worrying, but about looking for ways out of situations without so much stress.
Perhaps for this reason, for so much eagerness that assails us, is that we live postponing decisions.
When we assume the courage to see our fears, face to face, the obstacles, the unforeseen and the same doubts that eat us today will begin to fade.
We must fully assume the reins of our existence and take the measures that correspond to us at all times and in each circumstance that we go through.
Only then will we be able to gain confidence and we will verify that, sometimes, those things that we consider ‘so serious’ are only predispositions of the mind.
We must not condition anything to a rigorous script, let alone pretend to plan tomorrow from trenches or ‘comfort zones’.
I know that, at times, we feel that we are losing our autonomy and that causes us a bit of fear. However, before sadness invades us, it is necessary to question and find out what it is that we are missing in order to fully enjoy life.
Nothing to resign ourselves!
Let’s banish, once and for all, that old habit of repeating to ourselves that “we have to do what we are doing”.
We did not come into this world to suffer, much less are we condemned to be unhappy or wander the world ‘without rhyme or reason’. We cannot believe that all those accumulations of responsibilities and commitments that today are altering our daily lives are part of our destiny.
Nor can we blame others for what happens to us because, supposedly “they are not letting us do what we want or what really interests us.”
You, me and everyone in general must take control of our own life to get back on track and, above all, to be totally happy.
Unexpected situations occur in everyday life and, believe it or not, many of them arise to test us.
* Dealing with the unexpected is part of the journey. Let us remember that we are on a dynamic and creative path; So things, we must be purposeful. Instead of thinking about how difficult our path is, let’s think about how amazing our story will be.
* There are people who when things get difficult, instead of letting go, they grab it stronger. Those are the human beings that he must keep in his life, because they tend to caress his soul and provide him with a refuge and a helping hand.
* Never say “I want it” if you don’t really mean it; never ask how he is, if you don’t care what happens to that person; never offer hope, if it will not correspond to you; and do not fully open your heart to someone, if you are passing by. In this way, you will avoid making someone suffer.
TODAY’S CASE
Concerns frequently assault our state of mind. However, with each questioning we have one more chance to face a new horizon, either reasoning or applying healthy strategies for the soul. What are those fears that affect you today? Tell us about them to reflect on it on this page. Send your testimony to Euclides Kilô Ardila at the following email: eardila@vanguardia.com In this column, he will answer you himself. Let’s see today’s case:
Testimony: “Something strong that happened to me with a disappointment, today makes me feel disappointed with life. I have not been able to shake off that disappointment and, in a way, I have become an incredulous believer in everything. What advice could you give me in light of what I feel? Thank you very much”.
Answer: At some point we have all been disappointed or experienced the ‘bitter taste’ of what we thought was going to happen, but in the end it never happened.
I could almost tell you that what you are experiencing is relatively ‘normal’. I mention it because, as much as we want to escape some disappointment, it often happens that we are wrong with our expectations.
In your case, they have the task of overcoming the emotions you have experienced as a result of the disappointment you experienced. I’m talking about that sadness, that fear, that anger and that frustration that, in the end, have him imprisoned in the midst of his daily life.
If you insist on keeping all that disenchantment within your soul, your resentment will eventually entrench even more, to the point that your pain will become more chronic, your grief will increase, and your resentment will block you more each day.
Don’t think about the matter any more because you will be left accumulating more bitterness.
It seems key to me that he sees what he has lived as a learning experience. From a resilient perspective, overcoming that disappointment will make you stronger.
If you don’t, you’ll never trust yourself again, and skepticism will become your own prison.
Ask God for strength and clarity to overcome this situation and look forward with optimism. Listen to me!