The 15 best books to overcome a love breakup (even if you are not Tamara Falcó)

doYou just broke up with your partner? Do you feel that you don’t feel like doing anything and that everything means a world to you? Calm! It is the most normal thing in the world if the separation has just taken place. The wounds are open and you find yourself at a crossroads from which you do not know how to get out. You feed on chocolate, caffeine and anything that could be classified as ‘unhealthy’ because even cooking makes you lazy and means a world. A more natural situation than you think in a process like this, in which many are firmly committed to reading as a resource to overcome the separation from their partner. And it is that, who has not ever had to face a love break?

The feeling is overwhelming and very painful. You feel that you carry a slab that is very difficult to get rid of. You need time to accept what has happened and to put some order in your life. Although at this point, remember that it is very important that don’t invalidate your emotions. So if you feel like crying your eyes out, go for it! If you want to make yourself a good self-gift, do it! If you feel like making solo plans, do it! These are delicate times in which you need to welcome yourself, love yourself and pamper yourself a lot. In those little moments you can take the opportunity to read books about love breakupssince they will help you nurture your self-esteem and let go of everything that does not let you move forward.

In addition to going out with those closest to you to make fun plans, cry (which is also healthy and liberating), give yourself time and space to do whatever you want, you can read things that allow you to connect with your pain or that help you avoid you If you don’t know where to start, at LOS40 we have compiled some titles written by professionals in the world of psychology and psychiatrywhich will help you assimilate what happened, leave the bad behind and reorganize your life, something essential after having separated from your partner.

1. Alone by Silvia Congost

After having gone through a complicated love breakup, it is time to spend time with oneself, something that we are not used to but that, in the words of the author, is vital to be able to achieve personal growth. In this book, there are keys and advice to cope with the pain and sorrow that this situation generates in us and, in turn, what we should do when we feel most vulnerable.

two. dear me: we need to talk by Elisabeth Clapes

A beautiful and restorative way to get to know yourself after dealing with a love breakup. This self-help book invites you to do Another look at your current version. How? Accepting you, loving you, forgiving you and letting go of what is not good for you. This reading is ideal to start from scratch and to, once and for all, begin to love yourself and put yourself in the place you deserve.

3. The Trail of Tears by Jorge Bucay

The Argentine author Jorge Bucay captures in this book how manage the loss of a loved one. Do not forget that breaking ties with someone is also a duel for which no one is prepared. In this book you will find a great roadmap to try to leave behind what is already left behind and will help you look towards a new horizon with hope.

4. Women who no longer suffer for love by Coral Smith

Dismantling the romantic myth in 3,2,1… Clever! A book that invites us to take a joint look at how we idealize the other being and how social convictions have led us to dead ends when it comes to love. With this book you will start a journey (with a compassionate look) towards yourself and your relationships, which will help you suffer less and enjoy love more.

5. Love or depend? by Walter Rioso

After a love breakup, the most normal thing is to have a affective attachment to the other person, something that reaches some alarming nuances when you have had a toxic relationship. This time bomb can go off at any moment and drag you down. If you want to practice detachment and see what a healthy relationship is really like, this self-help book is perfect for it.

6. How to survive a breakup by Vicente Garrido

A very useful manual to be able to look ahead and move forward, despite the difficulties along the way. A book that invites you to take a mental perspective of the situation and think about the best way to manage a breakup and the problems arising from it: what kind of lawyer should I go to, what steps do I have to follow, what skills do I have to manage the communication with the children… In addition to the rupture itself, which supposes open a door to rearrange your pillars from beginning to end.

7. It’s so hard for me to forget you by Mariela Michelena

Does emptiness generate a situation of desolation? Do not know how to get out of the vicious circle in which you are? This book speaks openly about how to overcome a breakup and leave behind the pain, grief and nostalgia and invites build a new identity.

8. I already told you goodbye, now how can I forget you by Walter Rioso

A way to say goodbye to what no longer adds to you. With this work by Walter Riso you will take a journey through all the stages of a love break, focusing on yourself so that you do not lose the initial perspective: leaving the past behind.

9. The courage to be yourself: a guide to overcome your emotional dependency and grow internally by Sue Patton Thoele

A work that helps to practice detachment and get rid of all those attitudes that disconnect you from yourself. The requirement will stay aside and only then can one enjoy everything that is within their reach. This book puts the reader at the center of the story and helps to remove all those layers of strength that you have had to put on yourself out of sheer survival instinct.

10. I love myself I love you by Maria Esclapez

This precious book helps to know how to see the most toxic situations from afar, the importance of setting limits so that your state of well-being is not damaged and to reinforce your self-esteem. He offers practical exercises and some real-life cases of his patients so that once you begin to love yourself, to put yourself first, to say no…

11. How to get over a thought break by Patricia Cordoba

Overcoming heartbreak is not an easy task, but it is necessary to continue growing personally. Many whys travel through your mind and surely there are things that you do not understand today. The reality is that this work invites us to abandon self-deception, justifications and all the suffering that we sometimes feel due to certain ties. This work helps you to learn a great deal from this situation and to see things differently.

12. Love is not enough by Aaron T. Beck

Idealizing always leads to great frustrations. Learn to forget about expectations, to force things to fit just because, that rigid communication generates disappointment and a long etcetera. This work invites you to do a work of introspection without disguises, without masks, without half-truths…

13. Unloved Women by Mariela Michelena

Impossible, tortuous, harmful relationships… This book helps to take an internal look to detect possible patterns or vices that occur in your relationships, especially when choosing them. In addition, it provides several resources to build your self-esteem and cope with this difficult situation.

14. The monk who sold his Ferrari by Jorge Bucay

A story full of spirituality, hope and great learning. Julian Mantle, the protagonist, suffers from a health problem that forces him to rethink his existence. Immersed in an identity crisis, Julian sells all his belongings and settles in the Himalayan monastery. There he learns great lessons about happiness, balance and inner peace.

15. How to make good things happen to you by Marian Rojas

A perfect book by Marian Rojas perfect to read at any time as it invites us to reflect deeply on our abilities and the way we understand happiness. It is a didactic work that will help you put into practice some ideas that you had forgotten.

The 15 best books to overcome a love breakup (even if you are not Tamara Falcó)