MMany people don’t know how to change their routine lives. Although they feel that they must make substantial changes to their environments, they always give up because they have no idea where to start.
And since they cannot figure out the steps they must take to achieve that healthy purpose, they cross their hands and remain stagnant.
What is it that really binds them? Well, the fears and insecurities that haunt their minds are awakened. Also, the thought of stepping out of their ‘comfort zones’ makes them faint.
This being the case, it will be essential to free yourself from the fears that make you so intimidated. They should keep in mind that sometimes the panic they feel is completely unfounded.
The first thing I must tell you is that although the desire to transform is good, this does not imply that you should do it ‘topa tolondra’. A change of life also implies reflection and planning.
I mention it because changing your life is, in essence, a matter that implies defining what your motivations are.
In other words, propitiating a true change implies betting on a project powerful enough for it to be the one that determines the path to follow.
The change must come from within, so that once they take the step they do not regret it and can move forward with enough interest in that transformation.
They can let themselves be carried away, in a prudent way, by their intuitions. They will help you to have a more practical approach and will help you to have the necessary faith to risk taking new paths.
I reiterate that you should not rush. It is necessary to transform little by little, designing strategies in the mind in advance, and looking for or gathering all the information and key details that allow them to acquire sufficient security when making decisions.
And whatever path they choose, they cannot forget God. Trusting in him and in his good disposition will be essential to receive blessings and to have his help when needed, no matter how difficult the circumstances are.
If you dare to take the step of transforming your lives, in due time, the Creator and life itself will begin to give you everything you have asked for and that will give you the strength to further develop all your potentialities. God bless you!
* The term prudence comes from the Latin ‘prudentia’, which translates into that quality that urges people to act with moderation. Bottom line: when you don’t have anything nice to say, avoid speaking up. It is better to be a ‘king’ of your silence than to be a ‘slave’ of your words!
* There are friends who transmit so much peace and confidence that their conversations seem therapeutic and revitalizing. I’m talking about those ‘partners’ who always make us feel comfortable, among other things, because they are happy when we smile.
* Let flow, do not dare to force anything or cling to anyone. Everything has its moment in life and also everything happens ‘for a reason’. It is up to him to accept each situation as it is, without this implying that he must live resigned or bitter.
TELL US YOUR CASE!
Concerns frequently assault our state of mind. However, with each question we have one more chance to face a new horizon, either by reasoning or applying healthy strategies for the soul. What are those fears that affect you today? Tell us about them to reflect on it on this page. Send your testimony to Euclides Kilô Ardila at: eardila@vanguardia.com In this column, he himself will respond. Let’s look at today’s case:
Testimony: “I feel disappointed. I offered a lot to some people, I shook their hands and they didn’t reciprocate as I expected. I will never talk to them again, I will never determine them again because they betrayed my trust. Why have I not gotten the due reciprocity if I always gave them the best of me?
Answer: It is difficult to understand that the people we thought were real to us, finally let us down.
However, before taking drastic action, it is essential to breathe and take time to calm down.
If you react impulsively, you are likely to be filled with more recriminations and end up more disappointed in life.
I’ll tell you that the reciprocity you speak of doesn’t always happen. Pretending to receive the same thing that you offer is not as exact an equation as you imagine.
I know he was expecting, at the very least, a voice of thanks for what he offered his ‘friends’. Don’t be bitter, the world is like that!
The invitation is to accept that the disappointments that those people left you are part of a reality that you can no longer change. Similarly, do not create false expectations of people.
Perhaps the most advisable thing, in your case, is not to be affected by the actions of these people for physical, mental and spiritual health.
As much as possible, be a little more cautious about giving away your trust to others. Always have a good dose of caution and prudence, under penalty of continuing to be betrayed. Trust me and you will see that you will feel better!