“We are responsible for what happens to us. Stop blaming others.”
Mother of four children, the young fifty-year-old…
“We are responsible for what happens to us. Stop blaming others.”
Mother of four children, the young fifties who grew up between Saint-Michel and the Capuchins, before going into exile for twelve years in the United States, decided to change her life after a severe burn-out and a turn in her family life. . Elected “top networker” for three consecutive years within BNI national (Business Network International, the leading business network in Europe), she takes up her pilgrim’s staff in 200 pages to hammer home her mantra: “We are responsible for this that happens to us. We must stop blaming others and learn to make decisions. His motto: visualize your future to believe in it.
Easy to read
His way of expressing himself merges a delicious mixture of Bordeaux accent and slow support on consonants, American style. Frank and direct, she handles empathy with finesse and efficiency. His zebra brain scrutinizes you, without doing it on purpose, to understand who you are in the background and how the neural pathways of the human being having a coffee in front of him work.
At first sight, one can imagine finding in a book dealing with the “big dream” and encouraging to “ask the Universe”, all sorts of esoteric rantings, even appeals to the sacred. If she likes to question spirituality, her book sticks to borders to draw on various horizons of self-knowledge and provide tools, tips and questions.
The diversity of his Cuban, Spanish, German origins, his early childhood in Reunion may have forged an opening of sensitivity. Daughter of a doctor in Saint-Michel and granddaughter of an officer, Sophie Lion bases her work on knowledge from psychology and neuroscience. Very easy to read, it offers exercises to take the first steps towards habits of self-reflection but above all on how to develop your business or your professional objectives.
Dream “without limits”
The women who left it to him to guide them in their change of life all describe his ability to open the floodgates and let go. “To imagine his future job or his activity, or how to earn more money, I say: let’s dream without limit, she asserts. Then, we reframe but first, we dream. To do this, we must deconstruct our limiting beliefs, and therefore our mental constructs. She suggests, for example, as an exercise to list what comes to mind to complete the sentence: “If I could, I…” The instruction being to project oneself into the future and not into a utopia.
It may seem easy, even simple, but very smart that could start without any hesitation. This list is then used to establish a “vision board” that we create by gluing images and words representing our objectives. Neuroscience shows that what the brain imagines, it believes to be effective. The thoughts and reactions are then induced automatically in connection with the objective. “If I tell you, ‘Only see what is red today’, in your day, you will find a lot of red objects that you wouldn’t even have noticed. For your goals and your big dream, it’s the same: see it in detail and display it, talk about it around you, ask others to help you achieve it…”
Choose your course and decide
She bases her coaching on working on our internal-external locus of control, this ability to estimate that our fate depends above all on ourselves or on external elements. “It requires a discipline of self-reflection, admits the coach, but the benefit can revolutionize our daily lives and our well-being. You have to take stock of your trajectory regularly and see if you’ve strayed from your course, if it suits you in the end, etc. These exercises are tools. »
In September, Sophie Lion will organize a one-day seminar on leadership (date to be confirmed). In December, two days to “set out your vision, fight against your limiting beliefs and create a vision board”. Today, she returns to wear out her panties on the school benches, but to give personal development courses in business schools.
Bordeaux: in her book, Sophie Lion gives advice on how to achieve her “great dream”