Why would you want to help when there is nothing to do?

I read you fairly regularly to get a good idea of ​​the issues you deal with on a daily basis. That’s a good package! There are serious ones, others moderately serious, and without exaggerating, we could qualify some of them as light. But as I imagine you have to answer as many people as possible, you must take the time to analyze all the questions so as not to miss anything important that could interest the greatest number.

I often ask myself the same question when I dwell on certain letters, and without wanting to shock anyone, I say to myself: “Why take the time to answer that? Just by reading what this person writes, you can see that there is nothing to do with her. His case is hopeless.

Not that I consider her question (her case) less important than the others, but because she does not seem to me to be open to receiving advice, which she is likely not to bother to follow, if I rely on everything he said.

I worked for several years in the field of counseling to realize that for many people, asking for advice corresponds to wanting to be told what they already know and that they do not want to listen, because deep down, they will never have the courage to begin the process of healing. By writing to you, they are only giving themselves a clear conscience. That’s all !

I also imagine that you must restrain yourself from dismissing all these cranks who believe in God and in everything that their Church imposes on them from the height of its greatness. You give them a space that you should reserve for non-believers, which I understand you are, and who are genuinely looking for real ways to nurture their spirituality. Why leave them under the illusion that they are doing the right thing by believing in the existence of their God, when what they believe in is only legends?

The purpose of my letter is not to tell you that you are doing your job badly, but to help you become more radical when you do not think like your interlocutor. Some people need to be talked into the headphones, as my father used to say!

Someone who wishes you well

I don’t think I’m one to not say what I mean. But it is certain that if sometimes I feel like “talking to someone in the headset” as you say, it is better that I hold back, so as not to miss the target of this Courier which is intended as a resource for Help for everyone, including those who think they have the truth but are still struggling to get out. I never lose sight that life is a stormy river for many people.

I’m neither a therapist nor a psychologist and I don’t claim to know everything, but I try, to the best of my knowledge, to put people who write to me on the path to a solution to their problem.

Even if I feel that the person I’m talking to doesn’t have a predisposition to listen to my suggestion, I make it anyway. Because maybe I am her last resort, the last ear ready to give attention to what makes her suffer?

As for believers, I do not judge them, even if I am personally agnostic. If their belief helps them to live, who am I to tell them that the chosen means is inadequate when it works for them?

My main objective with this mail is to give a glimmer of hope to those who write to me, at the same time as to interest all the others who do not write to me, but who take advantage of these moments of intimacy published in their Log.

Why would you want to help when there is nothing to do?