Why do young people commit suicide?

Campaign early detection of depression and suicide prevention at home “protective families happy families”

The increase in depression and child and adolescent suicides is increasing and it is up to the whole society to assume an active role. Here are some reflections on the matter to be life-saving actors in our lives.

The absence of affection is one of the conditions that we see more in consultation as a precedent in cases of suicide and major depression.

Young people who have suffered abuse, abandonment, deaths, bullying, poorly managed divorces, witnessed spousal violence, or were victims of sexual abuse, humiliation or psychological torture are much more likely to suffer from depression, anxiety and personality disorders that can trigger suicidal behavior but they are treated in time.

Family communication, affection, and peaceful conflict resolution centered on an understanding of the needs of young people reduce suicidal risk.

Fathers and mothers must stop considering their children as trophies or debtors of their existence to their parents, whom they should always make feel proud or satisfied, it is important that they be recognized as autonomous individuals and that they seek their own happiness, their dreams and Set your own unimposed goals.

It is important to strengthen the self-esteem of children and young people through phrases such as “I know you have done the best” even in the face of failure, “I will always love you no matter how wrong you are”, “you are the most important thing to me”, “I will always You can count on me and I will always be there for you.

Adolescents and young adults with depression, cutting, self-destructive behaviors, strong addictions and suicidal ideation often experience chronic feelings of emptiness and fear of abandonment, loneliness and significant loss of emotional support (“Nobody cares about me or nobody loves me as I am”) that is why it is so important to make them feel that they are loved beyond their attitudes, their mistakes and their differences. It is not about falling into complete permissiveness but about imposing a discipline with love with dialogue with empathy in which we make mutual agreements.

Forgiveness, family unity, non-toxic communication (criticism, insults, contempt and constant or blameworthy accusations) and empathy and compassion with the needs of the other are the best way to prevent youth suicide. Ultimately everything is summed up in five letters: LOVE.

Depression is darkness and Only light dispels darkness, darkness is hate and light is love, that’s why only love Dispels hate.

Basic recommendations

Depression is a mental illness, sometimes it is an episode, but it is always a condition that affects the way our brain, mind and feelings process events. Keep in mind that the person with depression she doesn’t want to be depressed or has decided to be negative irritable and pessimistic, she just is Y so it feels and it is not something you can voluntarily decide or control. be empathic
Don’t judge, try to ask

What makes you feel this way? instead of

Why do you feel that way?

Don’t say: A and what’s wrong with you?

Say better: Tell me what I can do to help you feel better?

What would you like to see changed?

Is there something you think we should talk about that we haven’t?

Do you feel understood by me? ‘

3. Identify if there are past wounds and situations that have affected your son or daughter and that you have not yet recognized, learn to ask for forgiveness and even if you never talk about your faults, recognize yourself before him or her as a humble human being who is capable of recognizing mistakes ask for forgiveness and put yourself in his place so he will stop feeling canceled and empty

4. Make a list of 5 things you admire about your son or daughter, especially if you are a father and you have never said so, if you are a mother and you always point blame, do the same and read them their qualities or make a list of them, decorate them and paste them at the door of his room. tell him that is so you can see him daily, even if he doesn’t tell you that’s what I like and you. This will raise their self-esteem and improve their relationship with you.

5. Write a healing letter with the opening sentences I forgive you by and describe your mistakes; I apologize and do not be afraid to be self-critical and describe yours fighting against their arrogant pride and shame, do it for love, I thank you and acknowledges every good thing he has done, I free you of my traumas, ties and my complexes so that you are better than me and I bless you and wish you all the good that you want to do in life finally I bless you so that you can be that artist that sometimes I have not supported or that athlete I bless you so that you find love, I bless you so that all your potential takes you far and your qualities (describe them again).

And to the institutions, mayors, universities, public and private schools, join the free and voluntary campaign for EARLY DEPRESSION DETECTION AND SUICIDE PREVENTION AT HOME “PROTECTIVE FAMILIES, HAPPY FAMILIES” free face-to-face and virtual campaign for the entire country. since 2019:

ACTIVITIES:

Face-to-face or virtual conference of 100: 80 minutes of keynote presentation and 20 minutes of questions and interaction with the public.

A total of 40 books are delivered in PDF format about mental health, existentialism, spirituality, mindfulness, meaning of life, emotional intelligence and motivation.

A specialized package (see below) is delivered and health personnel, teachers and parents are trained in its application to detect the scourge early at home without the need to go to a consultation with an EPS IPS or health entity before it is too late or the risk is imminent.

Training of teachers and health personnel. 60-minute lecture on updated screening strategies for depression, differential diagnosis, and interdisciplinary care and referral.

Attention in crisis due to risk or suicide attempt to strata 1, 2 and 3 that are in the conferences.

To date (July 2022) the campaign has been carried out voluntarily and free of charge by offer or request to colleges, universities and some mayors of the departments of:

Cundinamarca.
Bogota
Quindio
Risaralda
Antioch.
Guainia.
I crash
Narino
Tolima
caldas

MATERIALS:

The educational institution, mayor’s office, secretary of health, university or company interested in being a beneficiary of the campaign must send an email to [email protected] and to the professional whats app: +57 316 4502080 indicated names of the person in charge, institution, city, department, target population and number of population summoned.

Determine before communicating if you want the conference for adults and parents over 14 years of age; for health personnel or teachers or if you require only one, two or three spaces according to your needs and population.

German Estrada Marino

Clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst

Individual couple and family psychotherapist